so a week ago now i was walking to the mail box to drop off a couple letters. imagine if you will the condos that are right by my house. if you are leaving my house you go to the right.. ok yes. umm, one of them has a mail box near the front door. i was crossing the light. note its 1030 at night, im getting ready to go to sleep. and this car stops in the middle of the intersection and was like, ‘hey’. the way he said it i thought he needed directions or wanted to know where the closest gas station was. so i took my headphones out and he was like, ‘i dont normally do this, but i really like your style.’
needless to say im totally off guard.
note his car is in the left hand turning lane, and he gets out and we chat for a moment. he clearly was younger, but i couldnt tell by how much. and so we keep talking. he then was like, so do you like coffee.. and i was like, yes. and hes like what about tea (and his voice made me think that was his preference) and i said sure. it was obvious to know where he was going with that. he asked for my number and i stalled for a bit. then i asked how old he was. he said 23 which seemed about right.
note also, he clearly had way more interest in me than i did in him. which was fine. i was motivated mainly by curiousity. mix in a little bit of ‘he almost deserves it for taking a risk like that. (pity?)
i gave him my number. then he had to go cuz someone came up behind him.
i get home from my little walk, being like, wtf.
my cell phone has a msg on it, ‘hi’
i said. hi, that was fast.
he was like, what does that mean?
(enter in my first thought that he was a bit insecure)
so then for the rest of the night he text msgs me and showers me with compliments on how beautiful i am. yes, part of my reaction was because i am not used to that talk. but i truly dont look in the mirror and see beauty. i didnt act like some stupid girl who was like, no im not. i just let him say what was on his mind. i doubted his words heaps and thought that he just wanted to get some. probably true to an extent.
then he was like, look i gotta go. but heres my personal line (pardon?) and contact me on this one, ok? you know i am interested. ill leave it up to you to contact me (fair enough.)
note also that i was a little brat. i think i have too much confidence sometimes. i would constantly put him on the spot.. more so the next day, just to imagine him squirm. haha. totaly something i would do.
for instance…
i didnt text msg him until four thirty or five. i made him wait all day. and i knew by the way we talked that it might bother him a bit. haha. jerk!
i msged a friend and then called him after, at like 1230 at night, being like, wtf. without forming these thoughts in my head, the way i felt about the whole ordeal was, this sounds like a really bad plot for a mariah carey or j lo movie. another box office dud.
i said that there is no way we can start dating. cuz how the hell am i supposed to tell people how we met without vomitting?!!! kidding. but seriously. anyways. he laughed.
so onto day 2… we msged back and forth the whole night.
we made plans for the next tuesday (dont worry, i would not have gone anywhere but public with him, and my cell would have been on me and there would have been people to know where i was exactly) and our coffee/tea turned into, what he called a date. (dun dun dun ♪)
this is where it gets funny.
at one point he was like, ok, i hate having secrets so i need to tell you something. if you dont want to be my friend i understand.
i said, surprise me sort of deal. i dont remember my exact words.
hes like, i have a second job (he works construction during the day) i deliver weed at night.
within 2 minutes of me not responding (rj and i were playing halo) i got like the text msg, well ok it was nice to meet you.
i said, whoa, you assume way too much, this is not me judging you. i sincerely do not care what you do with your life. but know that this can not be any more than friends.
i got bombarded with text msgs being like, ‘i never wanted more than friendship with you either!! it could never work me with2 jobs and you always gone. why would you say that… ” and on and on.
i was like, ’sorry if i came across boldly for you. i am just the type of person that will tell you how i see it. and you need to know.
clearly doesnt take rejection well.
so we chatted some more.
we had a few similar interests. art, history that sort of deal. there were some things that were said that made me think, yeah he’s totally not the guy i would want anyways. he asked why i asked about the age deal.. and i found out he grew up in kamloops. he accused me of being able to put people on the spot quite nicely.. to which i just laughed. he also said some comments that made me think, yup, you def want to just get some. haha.
near the end he was like, its really cool to have a convo with someone who is smart. you have definitely kept my interest.
to which i responded, interest as in friendship right (clearly drawing the line)
again i got bombarded with text msgs ‘what if you were to fall in love with me? why can you say that? i dont judge people like you do.. ” and on and on.
i found it funny cuz he never asked why. he just assumed i was judging his character. so i never told him why. i totally dont care about people smoking pot, if i didnt have my job i probably would. im just to paranoid to lose the travel deals. if you want to grow a plant yourself and share it with your friends thats one thing, but being in control of someone else’s drugs… no thank you. if something goes wrong, depending on how much you have… it could get ugly really fast. i dont want to be a part of that.
his plans were to just save up money so he could start flipping houses. it was his way of getting a head start. i say have at it. but i did ask him if it was the best way to get to where he wanted to go. he didnt reply.
anyways. the convo ended with him being like, well i could never be friends with you if i knew i could never have you.
psycho path? haha. probably not. but still. it was weird. we hadn’t talked since obviously. he msged me something and just left it as is. no response cuz im like, i dont need to justify myself to you at all. and your an ass for just jumping to conclusions about me all the time. he assumed a lot of things during our one convo that i had to constantly correct. totally insecure. whatever.
